Bah, who needs updates.

[wild_dreamer]

When life is going so well, who needs to remember to update their LJ? Apparently not me. XP

Everything is going SMASHINGLY right now. I'm content in my life. I'm talking to eccentric_alex on a very regular basis again, I have a steady boyfriend who makes me very very very happy.

I went on a hesitant date with Aaron and was VERY glad that he conveniently decided to make gestures towards friendship rather than continued romantic interest. It was kind of like "oh thank god you feel the same way, now stop asking me out to dinner like that."

I've been spending less of my free time online, preferring to catch up on some reading, or sleeping, or spending time with James. =] And to a degree, I'm spending my time off with real people in general, whether it be eccentric_alex on the phone after work or Aaron on my lunch and on a day off. I spend my time walking around the city and (erk!) shopping (I swear I'm getting girlier!), doing important things around the house like getting up far too early to mow the lawn before my plans for the day, or working out important logistics in getting my room and life organized.

Aaron offered me his job at the end of the summer when he goes back to classes, as an office assistant at his mother's law firm. I'm seriously considering it, because if nothing else it will be a good opportunity for growth and change. Em agrees with me, says I should take it, and her advice means a lot right now since she's really helping to get my life back in line.

I've been, as I briefly mentioned, doing a bit more shopping, and admittedly a bit more splurging lately. Despite the girly shopping sprees, I still have the money for my phone, and rent, and none-too-cheap breakfast/tea/lunch at work all the time without stretching my budget. I'm still putting money aside into savings, too. I'm feeling really proud of myself lately. I should be spending less excess money, but some of it has been spent on dates with James, or presents for people.

I've also started to discover that it's much easier to relate to my father now that we're both adults, than to try and look at it from the perspective of a child wanting to reconcile with an estranged father, or vice versa. It's about wanting to be friends with this adult, and needing to put the work into it that's needed, for the sake of the blood we share.

Oh, and there's a new subject. I'm an adult. o.o No, seriously. I turn twenty in about two weeks, and I'm just getting my life figured out and put together, and continuing to be a strong, opinionated, independent young adult woman.


Hee, James made a comment to the effect of my being independent, in a good way. I don't remember exactly what the conversation was, but... oh yes! When we were at his parents' house on Saturday night (after moving him one flight up in the apartment building because of renovations), his mother had run his clothing through the wash while we were out at the movie and such, and put it all into the box it had gone over there in.

When we were actually getting ready to leave, I went to pick up the box and carry it out to the car (it was not a small box, but nor was it terribly heavy, just a touch awkward) and his father stepped in to take it from me. I was like "No, I'm good, I've got it," and he insisted on taking it and putting it out in the car, with a "No, you don't, here let me take that." So, whatever, I let him do it if it made him feel better. But when we got back to the apartment, I tossed the small handcarried stuff I'd been holding (a water bottle, my closed container from DQ, my package of chips from earlier) into the top of the box and hauled it up and into the apartment determinedly while James was getting toiletries from the downstairs apartment.

He came out with the items when I was about halfway across the parking lot, and I grinned and told him just to go get the door and then lock the car (since that was all we'd had in it to bring in, and I knew it) and he laughed at me a bit when we got upstairs and I put the box down. He was all "Hahaha, you really wanted to carry that box, didn't you?" And then he told me I was 'precious' (his favorite word for me.. XD), and that he knew I was an independent sort of girl, when I'd explained that it made me feel silly to have his dad insist on carrying it for me when I was perfectly capable of doing so.

I did insist on paying for our second date, and not letting him be the one to pay for everything, or be the one who makes all the sacrifices for the relationship, and all that. I very much enjoy being his equal. I also think I've matured quite a bit recently, because I've hit a point where I can look past what I want for his wants and needs, where I had a much harder time doing that before.

Besides which, I'll bet it's nice for him to be able to make a decision now and then. What with his being both the youngest of three and a Libra, that is. His whole family really just kind of makes choices for him, but he doesn't mind it mostly. They're not major things, just the things they know he wouldn't do if left to his own devices.

I enjoyed letting him make the plans for Friday evening. I'd had a vague idea of going back to his place and watching Tank Girl, but when we met up after work he basically said "So, dinner and then Iron Man? Or do you want to do something else before Iron Man? The showing is at 7:15, so we've got a couple hours to kill." We'd both wanted to see the movie, and I think he knew I wouldn't've thought of it. x3 Whatever the case... it was nice.

He's really been on my mind a lot. I've got no plans to let him go, oh no. Not this one. Mama likes him, and Em thinks his voice is cute (XD!) and I've not found anything to annoy me yet. He doesn't tease me about my chest or anything else, he's sweet and chivalrous without being patronizing. I have a feeling that we can really make this work; after all, he's actually a little more mature than I am, what with his being ten years older. xP

Eee, and he's going silver! I adore it. To little tiny pieces, I adore the streaks of silver in his hair. Totally sexy. I'm totally gonna take more pictures on Friday with him and his family, and hopefully post a couple of them so y'all can see what he looks like and such. <3

I do believe I've babbled enough for one night, especially since most of it came back to the lovely new man in my life. x3 I'm gonna hit the hay and get some beauty sleep before I open again at work tomorrow.

Ja matta ne, Minna-san! [Talk to you later, Everyone!]

P.S. He's totally a PC. XD <3 Ja!

Comments

[pirate-fae.livejournal.com]

Um, 20? *dies*

I mean, I *knew* that but seeing it in print was just...scary. Which is weird because I haven't thought of you as a child for a long time anyway.

Love you!
Othermama

[onnakitty.livejournal.com]

I know, it's scary. Incredibly traumatizing for all involved. ;]

I miss you guys, when am I gonna see you? =[

Love you too!